Who Is In Charge Here Anyway? – Reflections On Life


Now that I have returned home and am starting to get back into some kind of rhythm, I am reflecting on a number of things from the last couple years.

In that amount of time, I have been with my father as he passed away (COPD, lung cancer and pneumonia), been with my beloved partner through the death of his father, been present for my daughter’s marriage, done my best to be supportive of my son’s choice to be enlisted in the US Army (serving in Afghanistan), both observed and assisted my mother as she ages and declines in health, gotten my own diagnosis of illness due to a high level of environmental toxins, supported my daughter (Mami) during the pregnancy and birth of her first child (Mr. Sweetie), got married, attended the funeral of my 21-yr old nephew (accidental overdose), supported my beloved emotionally as he went through two heart procedures, and grieved the loss of one of my favorite mentors and teachers, Scott Dinsmore, age 32, due to an accident while climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro (see my post here), just to name a few…

Needless to say, it has been a pretty full last few years.

One thing seems very certain, life is full of many, many happenings, both large and small, from moment to moment and day to day. Some are very joyous (births, celebrations, reunions with loved ones, adventures, new experiences, trips we take, fun activities, weddings, a baby’s first steps, accomplishments, etc.), and some feel much more challenging, distressing, possibly sad, or even downright heartbreaking…

Through it all, I am reminded again and again, how many choices we have about how we live and experience our lives every day. How we can either see it as more of a grand adventure, with all kinds of opportunity for growth, learning, enjoyment, connecting with others in a deep and meaningful way, or a continual challenge, more of a “just-one-thing-after-the-other” existence.

There is an opportunity to be dedicated to life-long learning, like Hungarian Holocaust survivor, Sandor Teszler, as described in Ben Dunlap in his Ted Talk (here). An opportunity to ask ourselves at the end of each day, or on a regular basis, “Have I lived? Have I loved? Have I mattered?”, as taught by inspirational and motivational speaker, Brendon Burchard, and to challenge ourselves to live our own legend by doing work we love (Live Your Legend), because

I believe that the world would be an altogether different place if we all did work that actually mattered to us. Because when we focus our time and talents on the work that means something to us, it starts to matter to those around us as well. That’s what starts to change the world.  – Scott Dinsmore


We just have to decide what kind of person we are going to be and what kind of life we want to experience and make the choices that guide us in the direction of making those a reality. If we want to be kind and loving, read books, listen to audio courses or go to workshops or functions that teach more about the tools to accomplish this. If we want to be skilled and wise at money management, do the same thing. Pick your topic and desired goal and find ways to learn about it and incorporate it into your life. Find others who have the same goals or already have learned the skills and spend time with them; learn from them.

Life is happening every moment of every day. Learn from difficulties and challenges, they can make you stronger and teach you things you would possibly never have learned otherwise. Impress yourself.

None of us know how long we will be here, embrace the moments, ordinary or grand. You will be glad you did.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” ― Mahatma Gandhi


Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do; it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )


What tools or techniques have you used to learn and grow?  Have you been inspired by someone else in your life to make admirable changes?  What pointers would you like to share and pass on to others that you wish someone had shared with you?

We’d love to hear from you, so please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section so we can help each other; remember, we are all in this together!



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