When Sweeties Throw Tantrums: Mami In A New Land

As his first birthday nears, Mr. Sweetie has been displaying some new behaviors, developmental indicators of his progression in age that my mind and heart sometimes can’t quite fathom (his birth still seems like last week to me most days!) The chiefest of these behaviors is something that has taken me a little by surprise, because I didn’t expect it to come so soon — tantrums.

I first noticed this at home, one day, when I had to remove something from Mr. Sweetie’s hand that was probably not very good to put in his mouth/eat, and tried giving him a different, sweetie-safe item instead. He used to fuss, but it was short-lived; this time, the fuss came with a vengeance. And I started noticing other times when Mr. Sweetie would cause a ruckus when he wanted things to be different than they were.

Today was the first time that this sort of thing happened in a public place. We went to the store to get a few salsa-making ingredients, and I had grabbed a couple plastic produce bags to up our trip’s efficiency, since the little fellow was getting a bit tired. He wrestled one of the bags out of my hand, and when I tried to retrieve it, he cried and yelled at me, loud enough that a woman nearby came over to us and asked him, “Are you okay?” I had to explain what happened with the bag so this woman didn’t call someone to take Sweetie away from me, it was that loud!

I was surprised – I didn’t know a baby could start throwing tantrums at one year old! I realized that I was venturing into completely new and uncharted territory, and that I would need to learn a whole new sweetie-code. I have always been very attentive when he has gotten upset, but now I have to discern when it is something that is understandable to be upset about, and when it is being upset simply because Mr. Sweetie wants something that he can’t have.

It’s a balancing act of keeping with my parenting style, the things I think are important for a sweetie to know they can depend on, and beginning not to acquiesce to every last request, even if that request would have brought me running a month ago. I can feel Mr. Sweetie beginning to establish his independence more, and even though it is pretty loud sometimes, with a scream that makes some people wonder what I do behind closed doors, I can’t help but feel that it is a beautiful thing. He is growing, I am learning, and we are both getting to know each other more.

As I feel out this new behavior, I will keep you all posted on things that I am learning about it. Thanks for reading!

Have you experienced tantrums yet from your little sweetie? How did you handle them? Was the way you handled them different in actuality than it was in your head beforehand? Please leave a comment in the space below – we would love to hear what you think!

 

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Mami

Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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