The World’s Most Powerful Tool

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Throughout the years, I have been reminded again and again about the power of words. The words we hear through the media, from our music, from our teachers, from our friends, from the books or articles we read, from our parents and family members, and, most importantly from ourselves. These words shape who we are. They create how we see ourselves, our world, what kinds of relationships we have with others or whether we have any at all. They create out happiness, our success, our pain, and our health.

My most recent reminder was about 1-2 weeks ago, I was in a bit of a tailspin about my blood pressure. It had gone alarmingly up in the last few months and we can’t seem to figure out exactly why. As I am really dedicated to a natural life (aka NO pharmaceuticals unless it is absolutely necessary), I have been working with a functional medicine doctor who has been assisting me in resolving this without meds. However, part of the process is that I have to take a blood pressure reading multiple times per day and I can find no reliable rhyme or reason to why it is high or low. I also cannot reliably tell without taking a reading whether it is currently high or low. There have been many times that I was pretty positive it would be low and it was high, or that it was high and it would be just fine or comfortably close to it…

Here is where the BIG problem comes in… I started getting anxious about even taking it. This is because when I took it and it was high, I would get concerned and it would go higher – I even ended up in the emergency room one night over this!

Then it got even crazier! My doctor finally said, he felt like I needed to be on something to prevent any damage to other organs, etc. As I had also been having chest pain & kidney pain of late, I decided it was time to go on pharmaceuticals (we had already exhausted the diet, exercise, meditation, etc. routes). However, he put me on the lowest dose of the least harmful blood pressure meds & it didn’t seem to be having the necessary effect, so he wanted to raise it to the next dose. We raised it, and my blood pressure went up! Needless to say, this caused more distress for me and undoubtably helped to elevate the level…  : (

It was at this time that I got together with a dear friend of mine who has been heavily into exercises and processes to shift your mind and energy for many years. On my way to her house, I felt a little anxious and started playing with some letting go techniques and repeating some empowering words with a lot of volume and intensity. I felt much better. After I arrived, we chatted about several things, including what was going on with my blood pressure. I shared what I had done on the drive over and she made several suggestions, did a couple techniques with me, and planted some additional seeds of thought into my mind that I added to the little technique I came up with on the way to her house. I left feeling like a whole new person!

Now here I am, a couple weeks later, my blood pressure readings have been much better in general. I am on the higher dose of meds, but it is not creating a higher reading like it was in the beginning and I am not having to do other things just to keep it under going to the emergency room again or get on even more intense pharmaceuticals. My goal is to keep at it as well as having a really good exercise activity every day (keeping with the diet, meditation, etc.) and be able to get off the meds completely. (I will keep you posted on this.)

Reflecting on all of it and some of the hypnotherapy techniques I have been using from Marisa Peer, a very well known hypnotherapist, I am definitely realizing one of the things she said on a recording. “Some of the most important words you will ever say to yourself are ‘I am lovable’ and ‘let it in’.” She goes on to share that if you do not feel lovable and worthy of love, you will not do loving things for yourself and you will not have very happy or successful relationships because of the types of people you will attract and if you don’t feel lovable, you won’t be able to really feel the love others have for you as you will stick with the belief that you are not lovable overriding whatever they say or do. If you can’t let love in, from yourself or others, you won’t feel worthy, valuable, capable, etc. Which are all very valuable things to have and very important to integrate into your life and model and reflect back to your children and partners.

Other quotes and thoughts that have been inspiring or even life-changing over the years are:

1- Begin with the end in mind. (Stephen Covey) – I have applied this to my parenting and relationships for 15+ years now (ever since I first heard it on audiotape). I simply think about what my highest vision of my relationship is with my child, partner, family member, friend, co-worker, etc. and if my current interaction or response is going to help build that. If it doesn’t seem like it is, or if I thought it would, but it starts to head in the undesired direction, I adjust to the best of my capability.

2- Think win-win. (Stephen Covey) – If I set a goal that whatever I plan or intend is not only good for me, but also the other person(s) or entity involved, I am not only helping and taking care of myself, I am also helping and taking care of other people and, potentially, the world. How can that be bad?

3- The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. (Stephen Covey) – Another way to say, if something is important to you, put it on your calendar, day planner, phone app, whatever, and schedule it in so that it does happen! Rather than letting your life be like a leaf on the water and the water is taking it wherever it will, take charge of what will most definitely be happening in your life. This could be self care, having fun, rejuvenating your body, mind, spirit, getting out in nature, spending time with your beloved partner, having fun with your kids, etc. Otherwise, you will find yourself years down the road and many things you “intended” or thought you would do did not happen.

4- I teach people how to treat me by what I will allow. (Stephen Covey) This goes back to what Marisa Peer was saying above. If you believe that you are lovable and worthy of love and respect, then you feel much more comfortable and capable of guiding others to treat you that way with how you respond to their interactions, etc. This leads to you feeling much happier about your relationship experiences and your life. Yippee!

5- Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. (Stephen Covey) I would slightly adjust it to say “so love her, or him, or them, or yourself.” Basically, the more love you share in the world, the better world we have and the happier your life is.

6 – Look and you will find it — what is unsought will go undetected.  (Sophocles) We are not born knowing everything and our primary teachers (our parents), do not know everything. Neither does anyone else we ever encounter in our life. Therefore, if you have a curiosity, a challenge, a passion, or an interest, there has never been an easier time to find possible answers than now due to the internet. The challenge then becomes that there are so many possible solutions, or opinions regarding the solution, that you now have to look deeper to see if a particular solution fits for you. However, if you have ever felt very alone in your challenge or that you have no idea about how to resolve it, ask the almighty Google. So far, I have found some information or a solution about every single topic or thing I have ever looked for on there. We are not alone in our experiences of life! Reach out even if it is just on the internet!

7- [I]f we can become one-tenth as good at positive self-talk as we are at negative self-talk, we will notice an enormous change. (Julia Cameron)  We are typically very unaware of just how much we hold ourselves back by what we tell ourselves in our own minds. All the way from blatant thoughts like “I am so stupid!” or “that was really stupid” when you do something – and you think it often, to things like “I don’t know how to talk to women/men. I don’t think I am meant to be in a relationship” to affirming the current condition of your life like it is permanent, such as “life is hard”, “every time I make some extra money, some additional expense comes up – I never get ahead”.  These thoughts and self-talk are continuing to write your life. You have to make the decision about whether you want it to stay this way or you want to steer it in a different direction. Do you want your kids to think and feel this way and have this same type of life? If not, I suggest making the change by thinking of how you would like your life to be. What kinds of things would you be thinking and feeling if it were that way right now? Then look for ways to move in that direction today, even if the steps are very small. Build your dreams like you would a house, one brick (thought) at a time, and keep on going until you get there. Of course, along the way, you will notice other things you will want to create or change as well, rather than seeing these in a discouraging light, view them as another opportunity to learn, connect with others and have an even more fulfilling and awesome life!

8- The greatest gift you can ever give another person is your own happiness. (Abraham/Esther Hicks)  Not to mention, that tone of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is realizing that you create your own happiness. It is not dependent upon other people, the weather, your income, your diet, whether you are sick or not, whether you can afford that vacation this year or not, etc. You are absolutely in charge of whether the ups and downs of life will bring you down at all, for how long they will bring you down, if the mood, words or actions of another will hurt, depress or discourage you, etc. And, the greatest gift you can give to your children, your partner, your extended family, friends, business associates and the WORLD is a happy you! In the end, it is just a matter of deciding, do you want to enjoy your life and have fun or do you want your life to be hard, painful and suck? (Note: this does not mean that you have to or will reside in your happy place 100% of the time if you of course decide to take the yellow pill (you know, the sunshiny happy one). You simply make note that you are currently experiencing a “disturbance in the force”, decide what you are learning from that experience, decide if you are ready to move back to enjoying life, and, if so, find a way to do it (there are many tools for this – see below). However, do not give up and throw in the happy towel!! See number 9 below.

9- There’s only one way to fail, and that’s to quit. (Brian Hays)  When you have a dream, a passion, a goal, the only way to fail is to quit. Even if you have stopped working towards it, do not let that keep you from picking it back up again if it is truly your heart’s desire. Quitting on anything is the only way you will most definitely not accomplish it. This is also a very beneficial thing to model to your kids.

I hope these inspirational quotes and thoughts have come at a perfect time for you and there is at least one thing you can apply and benefit from. You can read further worthwhile quotes, ideas and even some techniques for helping you reprogram your mind to a better place in books by the above authors, find them here, here and here.

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do; it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )

Do you have quotes that have had a huge impact on your life?      What other things have you found that keep you inspired and your best you?

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