Stressed Out Mommy? – Hit the Reset Button


After the “busy-ness” of the last several months, I feel a little bit like I landed after a 6-12 month trip around the world and I need a vacation. Perhaps sitting in a lounge chair on the beach all day, watching the waves, listening to the ocean and the birds while the clouds roll by…

Then I realized that I feel this way and reminded myself about how it was to take on all that life brings your way (like unexpected car issues, your washing machine goes out, a mouth full of cavities that need attention, etc) And to have kids! I sometimes reflect back on the immensity of the project of being a family and wonder how the hell I did it, as well as how are all these young families of today doing it? So, I decided to remind myself and any other mommies (or interested dads) of some options for ways to relax and rejuvenate.

There are a number of things one can do to relax and rejuvenate by themselves, just imagine if you could take off overnight or for the weekend by yourself to unwind…  However sometimes that is just not a possibility, so here I will throw in a few suggestions for various amounts of time, cost and whether you are alone or not. In general, I think it is much more beneficial to turn off all electronics (or even leave them home), so keep that in mind as you make your amazing plans.

1 – Believe it or not, sometimes you can get some relaxation even in a group. Try renting an inspiring, fun or adventurous movie that takes you away from the here and now for a bit. This can be enjoyed by you, your and your partner, or sometimes even the whole family! Just be sure to set the environment up to support relaxation – like having snacks that won’t cause a potentially big mess, etc.

2 – Going for a nice walk. Getting outside is one of the best ways to have an opportunity to get out of what might be bothering you and unplug. Notice the beauty around you, listen to the birds, say hi to the people passing by (you can just smile). This can be made easy by just going around your own neighborhood, or if you can, go to a nearby park you enjoy or if you have the time and option, go to a State or National Park or waterway.


3 – Go to the park. Even if you just sit on the bench and don’t go walking around, you can still gain immensely from being outside in a different and/or beautiful environment. Take a good book, some art supplies, your journal, some knitting, or whatever you feel moved to.

4 – Exercise. Go for a bike ride, put on your favorite music and dance around the house with wild abandon until you feel spent. Then pull out the yoga mat and tune into your body. Answer it’s calls and stretch all the places that are asking you for attention. Breathe deeply in & out and let it all go!

5 – Meditate. If you haven’t meditated before there are a number of videos on YouTube that you can try. This one seemed pretty good for beginners and is only about 18 minutes long (Guided Meditation – Blissful Deep Relaxation). I have done meditation off and on for over 30 years. It is a very portable, very powerful tool for relaxation, healing and happiness. If you haven’t tried it, I definitely recommend checking it out for at least a week to see what you think.

6 – Read some inspirational quotes or a book. Something that makes you happy just to read the words and brings you new energy and insight about your life.

7 – Get a massage. If you have never had a massage, it is another must do. When you find someone who is good at finding and attending to your sore and uptight muscles, you can relax in a whole new way. You might even wonder how your life has gone on this long without having ever tried it. If it has been awhile since you have had a massage, you will be wondering why???? (Couples can even give each other a massage. I like this book for couples on massage, “Connecting Through Touch: The Couples Massage Book”.

8 – Soak in the tub. Set the vibe by getting yourself a large glass of iced lemon water and put some bath salts into the tub (I like these). Make sure you have some relaxing music playing or a guided meditation recording to support you in your relaxation.

9 – If you have the ability, take a night off by yourself. Get a hotel room and just relax, breathe, stretch, journal, read, or whatever seems to make you happy (remember to skip the electronics if possible to really take advantage of this time). If you are really fortunate, you may be able to get away for the whole weekend by yourself. If this opportunity ever comes up, take it!!! And enjoy!

These are just a few suggestions to help get you thinking about what ways you can and need to incorporate in to recharge your batteries and breathe new life and energy into your heart and soul so you can be the best woman or mami you are capable of!

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do; it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )


What ways have you found beneficial for rejuvenating your heart and soul?   Are you good about doing it regularly or just when a crisis hits?

We’d love to hear from you – please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section so we can help each other, remember, we are all in this together!


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