Saving Your Own Sinking Boat – The Power of Accomplishment and Self-Acknowlegment

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Time for an update…

I have good news. I am still alive and sane, as is my mom, after two weeks of long days, 7 days a week, to do my best to get her home cleared out and cleaned up.

I definitely had many opportunities to test my commitment, patience, etc, and my dedication to at least a minimal amount of self care (daily medications, hot showers for a sore body and weary mind, some stretching and listening to inspirational books on cd as well as uplifting music, as well as a hike in the mountains). This all helped to create or return to a positive attitude.

WOW!!  I had no idea how big of a project this would be. I mean, I knew she had A LOT of stuff, but I didn’t have any idea just how much that really was – and on top of that there was even more stuff inside all the cabinets, closets and the second bathroom, which hadn’t been seen in a number of years. In fact, many people who know my mom don’t even know she has a second bathroom.

There also were so many items I had not seen in a long time (bringing up many memories and stories), and things I had either completely forgotten or simply do not remember. It also was a bit challenging to decide what, if anything, I wanted to keep out of all the hundreds thousands of items we would potentially donate to a charity or give to friends if no family member had a need for it.

But, after two weeks, I am really happy to not only be able to go back home to my beloved husband, and dear friends and family (including Mami & Mr. Sweetie!!), but also to say that most of my mom’s condo is in much better shape and she was such a trooper!! Even though I know it was a real challenge to let go of many things, and I had to keep reminding her about the goal so we could carry on, the house looks great!! (Well, all but her bedroom, which I didn’t have enough time to get to…)

It also feels really good that it never got ugly, even though it was pretty challenging at times for both of us. I attribute this to the love in our relationship and something I learned over the years. Always be guided by the vision of what you are trying to create. How you treat others in the present moment builds how your relationship is and how you feel about each other, regardless of age, interests, etc.

I hope there have been some lessons in the sharing of my experience in doing this that help you in your life, whether it is helping you with your commitment to self care through parenting and life’s challenges, the importance of helping those you love, the importance of patience and being guided by your love for someone and your vision of what you want that relationship to look and feel like, or to inspire you if you have a huge job on the horizon, or a pack rat in your family.

Also, I really learned for myself and highly encourage us all to really think about what and how many items we own. They require us to provide shelter and maintenance as well as have a cost, and if anything happens to us, someone we love is going to have to do something with all of them… And it is a really big job!!

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do; it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )

 

Have you had to face a really big challenge and made note of the “before” and “after” of it?  Did you find doing that beneficial and commemorative for the accomplishment you achieved?  What other types of ways do you use to feed you mind and soul to feel capable and confident to take on large challenges?

We’d love to hear from you, so please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section so we can help each other; remember, we are all in this together!

 

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  1. October 20, 2015

    […] light of my recent trip to assist my mother in cleaning up her house (see my posts here and here) due to keeping so many things (pretty much for the past 20-60-years), many of them brand new, I […]

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