Resources For Parents: Two Books That Have Helped Me Immensely

Here it is! My weekly post from the land of modular homes and Latino culture!

Things are going pretty great over here, I must say. This does not mean that life has been bereft of challenge; on the contrary, it has been more difficult than it has in a while (or ever, really) in many respects, most of them having to do with parenting. Luckily for me (though I like to think it has more to do with my foresight and dedication to improvement than luck, but that’s enough horns tooting for now!), I had invested in a couple parenting books a few weeks ago when I felt myself nearing the end of my wits, and they are helping me tremendously. No, they aren’t changing my life – my perspective is changing. And since that’s really all we have control of anyway, they are helping me quite a bit. I thought I would share them with you, in case you or someone you know and love is in a similar boat. They might be just what the soul needs.

The first one is called Buddhism for Mothers, by Sarah Napthali (check it out here). I’m not Buddhist particularly, but since a lot of the philosophy is based around being centered (meditation, calming practices, being aware of oneself and the present moment and working through it), it seemed like a practical choice. I’m only about a quarter of the way in, but I think it’s great! She gives a lot of anecdotes about the perspectives of Buddhist mothers from all different walks of life in regard to parenting, intermixed with her own perspectives, along with explaining Buddhism in a nutshell. She tackles all kinds of topics, from regulating emotions and how to do it, to what children can do to one’s love life and how to maintain balance. The main thing I have been focusing on is being more present in the moment, which has helped me not to get too upset about things, and practicing focusing only on exactly what I am doing right at that specific second, not letting my mind go off on its wild spins and thoughts all the time. My frantic energy has gotten a lot more grounded!

The second one is Raising Your Spirited Child, by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (check it out here). It is all about ways to appreciate your child for who they are, no matter what kind of child they are, but in particular it is aimed towards parents of children who are “spirited” (many would describe them as ‘difficult’, ‘needy’, ‘overly emotional’, etc). One of the major things that I have loved doing thus far (and I’m also only about a quarter of the way through it) is an exercise in the book, where the author suggests taking all of the labels that we use to describe our children, and finding other ways to express them – to look past our reactions to who our children are, and instead to see them for what that energy really means; for example – ‘spirited’ instead of ‘difficult’, ‘energetic’ instead of ‘demanding’, ‘curious’ instead of ‘meddlesome’, etc. A lot of my attitude in darker moments toward Mr. Sweetie changed completely when I started seeing the things that sometimes drive me nuts as expressions of gifts that he has, gifts that, if I am able to encourage them in the right way, will make him an incredible, delightful, and beautiful adult and human being.

I hope that these books help even just one other person out there, and that they touch someone in the way they have touched me. I am determined to help shape a wonderful little person, and to be an incredible mother, and these books are helping me just as much with myself as they are with my little sweetie.

 

Are there any parenting books that you have read that you think may help another mami or parent? What resources do you turn to when times get difficult in the land of parenting? Please leave a comment in the space below; we would love to hear from you! Thanks for reading!

 

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Mami

Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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