Remembering My Sexiness: Reconnecting With Womanhood

When I was pregnant, I didn’t consider all the ways in which my life would be different, my body would be different. I never imagined that it would be like going through puberty again, for all the changes I would experience, and for the many ways in which I would be getting to know myself nearly from scratch.

Puberty is a major transition, a sometimes silent ceremony of the flesh, an internal and epic flood that washes away all that was known as a child and carries with it on the tide the blossoming bud of adulthood.

Being pregnant, laboring, and motherhood are much the same. It is the journey physically through the shedding of the young body for that of a seasoned woman, hormonally bouncing between teenage turbulence and blissful omnipotence, and mentally existing between a world you have spent your entire life making sense of and a world where everything is brand-new and moves just as fast or as slow as it pleases.

It can be difficult to remember that we are still women, even though we are now mamis as well. That important fact of life can be so easily forgotten amongst rattles, diapers, peek-a-boo games, and catnaps.

I didn’t realize that I had forgotten how sexy I am as a woman until just a few days ago. I have been under the rule of the task management, utilitarian gods for the past nine months, and I didn’t see it until I finally let everything go and was simply my sexy, feminine self.

It was a beautiful moment! I reconnected with the essence of gorgeous woman; I put one more piece into its place and made a step towards better understanding my new life, with all of its many facets. And, like a delicious cherry to top it off, I had the best orgasm I have had in over a year. It all transpired to center me back into who I am at my root, and it felt wonderful!

Mamis, in case you have forgotten, I am here to remind you:  don’t forget, in your new life as mothers, to save some space for the sexy women you are. Expressing yourself in all your wonderful complexity will help you to remain confident of your abilities to care for your little sweeties in the best possible way. There is nothing inappropriate about communicating your womanhood and sexiness now that you are a mami. It doesn’t matter if you are a little chubbier where you once were lithe, or if  your hair is a mess for all the wispy little pieces that serve as proof of all the hair you have shed, or if you have a few scars where your skin once glided under the touch of a hand like glass. You are sexy! This time in your life is just another of several we as women experience where we get to know ourselves in a different way, and with a different appreciation, than before.

Don’t forget: you are sexy!


Have you been able to balance being a mother with being a woman and an individual? What are some ways that you have expressed your sexiness as a mami, or what are some ways you would like to? How can you expand your opinion and view of yourself as a mami to include remembering how beautiful and sexy you are? Please leave a comment and help a mami out!


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Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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