Moving Mountains: Working Together


CAM00806Since Mr. Sweetie was born, I have spent a bit of time pondering what humans would be like in a natural habitat. Free of the constraints and demands of money, politics, greed, and our modern amenities. Mostly because I saw very quickly how difficult it would be, should a mami have a baby out somewhere in the wild, with predators lurking, and a steady supply of sustenance needed to keep up with the baby’s nutritional demands.

I think people are most definitely pack animals. The task of caring for and protecting an infant is far too great for just one person to manage. It can be done, but I don’t believe this is the way it was intended to be done. I imagine humans to be a lot like the prides of lions, with only a few males, and about a dozen females. Even though monogamy is the generally-practiced form of modern relationships, that doesn’t seem to fit with our gestational periods as humans. For any sort of survival of humans as a race, out in a wild world, it makes sense to me that more women vs fewer men creates more opportunities for overlapping pregnancies, thus allowing for some women to be freed up to do things like hunt for food, create shelter, and protect the babies. Nine months to be carried around by a mother before being born is a long time, and then there is at least another two-year period in which the baby needs its mother for just about everything. I don’t see humans traveling as pairs to be very successful at surviving with all that an infantĀ  requires.

I also wonder frequently why human mamis haven’t evolved to have four arms, or even some sort of pouch to put their babies in. Maybe that is why we have bigger brains and opposable thumbs, so we have the capability to build the things we need instead of just being born with them.

When I think about things like these, suddenly the issues that come with being human start to make a lot more sense. So many people in the industrialized world are depressed, have anxiety, feel lost or alone in the world, in one way or another, to one level of intensity or another. It is no wonder to me, when I think about how far apart we are pushed in the bustle of our daily lives. The main reason, I have noticed, that so many people are able to keep up with their friends and family, is because of the invention of the Internet, and smartphones, which can now be used at home, at work, in the car, waiting in line at the store, in a classroom, in the bathroom…the list goes on. Without that, I don’t think we would feel as okay about working so much, and being kept so busy, because our need to be social, and feel part of a community, is satiated, in that, at least, we were able to e-mail or message someone today.

I am not trying to bash the Internet, by any means. It has its positive uses and points, just as it has its negative ones.. But, since becoming a mami, I can tell you with 100% certainty — interactions over the Internet can never help you hold your baby, they can’t play with your baby while you cook, or clean; they can’t walk with your baby outdoors. They can’t soothe your baby when it cries. And they can’t give you a hug when you feel overwhelmed or alone.

We humans were meant to cohabitate, to support one another, to help one another achieve much bigger things than we could ever hope to achieve alone. There will never be a replacement for a community. And I realize the importance now, more than ever, of creating, establishing, maintaining, and growing those relationships that empower us, not only as mamis, but as natural human beings, to live happier, healthier, and more manageable lives. Lives relatively free of stress, anger, fear, depression, anxiety — lives full of appreciation, love, trust, and genuine support of one another.

Here are a few questions, to get your brain juices whirring:

  • Do I have relationships in my life that support a healthy sense of community?
  • If I really needed something or someone, do I know who I would call? Do they know that they could call me, should the situation be reversed?
  • If I am hesitant to create a supportive relationship with someone, what is the reason, why is it there, and what can I do to change it?

Together, we can do great things. Let’s get back to what feels right, and what makes sense, for the well-being and survival of our species. Life and the many choices and occurrences it brings can be much too heavy a load for any single person, but, together, we can move the greatest of mountains.


Encouraging Empowered Mamis To Do What They Do Everywhere


Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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