Mami And Her Need To Succeed

While pregnant with Mr. Sweetie, I had a moment of sudden realization: for my new little family to have the kind of life that we deserve, without working ourselves into the ground, I was going to need to return to school. I settled pretty much immediately on a degree in Nursing, but took it one step further – I want a Bachelor’s, not just an Associate’s. I could see, in my mind’s eye, my little Sweetie watching, the proudest little boy ever, as I graduate from college.

But these things, as I knew already, but am learning to a whole new level, do not come without a buttload of work. Not that I’m scared, or intimidated, but a truth is a truth. The other day, I received some interesting news – math is no longer a necessary part of my Associate’s Degree Plan! This meant that two classes I would have had to take were no longer on the table, meaning I could get through my next two years a little faster than expected, meaning that I could have my degree sooner! YAY! And then, I realized – that means that the entrance test I must take to get into my Anatomy class next spring has to be taken by November, which means that I have to learn a LOT of extra things in the next few months, on top of my course load, on top of all the other daily things I do as a mami. Whew! I’m going to be honest and say that, initially, I balked, just a little. And when the balking was over, I got to work.

You see, now that I am a mami, I have this unstoppable focus, aimed straight at success and achievement. My life is no longer about myself; it is about my Cisco, my Sweetie; it is about my little family. I am willing, more than ever in my life, to recognize where I am the most valuable, and can contribute the most to the future that we have, and, at this time, that looks exactly like what I am doing: caring for Mr. Sweetie, and taking advantage of my time at home by resuming my higher education. Until the day that Cisco has his own business, like he dreams to, and maybe even then, I am the one who has the greater earning capacity, so that is a responsibility I am taking steps to shoulder gracefully.

Out of curiosity, I started Googling to see if this new-found drive to succeed is something that many new mothers experience. Though I found several stories about mothers driven to success, I couldn’t locate anything on the science behind it, if there is such a thing. I am personally convinced of it, because I still remember, very vividly, the first night of Sweetie’s life, and the moment in which I became aware of a new part of my brain, like a dormant piece had been switched on. It is a part of my brain that never fully sleeps, never fully takes its thoughts away from the well-being of my son. And, because of this, I wonder: is it also the part of my brain that pushes me, as a mother, to do whatever I can to provide the absolute best for my little Sweetie? This is a subject that I will research further, to satiate my own drooling curiosity.

I must say that there is nothing quite like this electric engagement I now have in my life, something that I caught glimpses of during certain times in my past, but something that never really stuck before. And, though it would be flattering to take up the mantle as one of a chosen few who experience this sensation, I do not believe that it is an isolated phenomena.

How about you, mamis and readers? Can you relate?

Have you experienced the same motivational boost after becoming a mother? What did you do with it? How would you describe that feeling?


Encouraging Empowered Mamis Everywhere To Do What They Do


Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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