Losing Your Responsible Marbles: The Importance Of Listening To Self

Good evening, readers and mamis! I feel like I have not written a post in ages. Honestly, I went through a rough patch, and just didn’t feel like I had much to say. I tend to shut down a bit when I am in this frame of mind. I like to think of it as my soul being capable of more action and busy-ness than my body and mind can sometimes handle. Thankfully, life is returning to normal over here for me, and I am getting back on top of things.

I think, as parents or primary caregivers, we often get very focused on being able to provide for the people in our lives, including ourselves, and, without realizing it, we sometimes give too much. There’s no one judging how much to give at any given time, and sometimes there are different levels of what we can handle adding to our lives and what we can’t, changing dramatically from one moment to the next.

I want to clarify something: giving too much is like offering someone a glass of juice without checking to see if there’s any left first. A need is perceived, it is acted upon by care, and sometimes there is not enough energy to follow through.

It can have a cascading effect, too. A ball is dropped, and suddenly many others jump at the opportunity and start raining down from the sky onto our heads and all around us. Soon, life looks like a tornado has ravaged the living room of a hoarder. Total disorganization, disarray, and we are lost in an ocean of loose priorities. What kept us moving is now slowing us down. And it can be easy to spend a little time dwelling there in the rubble, mustering up the grit to grin and get on.

After going through this pattern for a while, I am finally recognizing when it starts creeping in. I immediately start to throttle down my expectations. When I am feeling more energetic, I do more, so that the rest of the time, I can do less, and not be so swept off my feet and under the current of responsibility. I indulge myself a little more than usual; I let myself sleep a little later. I throw in a few times when I make myself do something that I can’t even imagine getting up to do, so that I can have some accomplishments, however small, to get me back together with my motivation. I eat more. I play more.

And soon, before I realize what is happening, I’m back on my track! Life resumes its regular speed and fervor. I am thankful now for my better understanding of myself and what I need. I feel that listening to oneself is invaluable because it creates a life without resentment toward self or others. If you are listening to what you need, at this moment or in that place, letting things develop as they move into and through your experience instead of adhering to a strict plan, you can return to yourself when all seems lost.

That’s my profound message for this week.

I remember as a child being excited to become an adult so I could eat ice cream for dinner whenever I wanted. I sure never thought I would be waxing poetic about losing my responsible marbles from time to time.

Have you ever had an experience like this? What did you do? What advice would you give someone with a similar experience? We would love to hear from you! Leave us a comment in the space below!

 

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Mami

Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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