How To Help Keep The Love Alive – The Quest For A New Name

note-34671_1280Interestingly, after 5 years of being together, loving each other very much and having a generally sweet and grand time, it came up the other day that Musepa would prefer a different pet name or term of endearment. Somehow over the years, I had taken to calling him “Sweetie Pie”, and did so all the time; both at home and in public. Apparently, he was starting to notice that he didn’t always feel comfortable with me calling him that in public. I think it wasn’t manly enough. Guess that makes sense, if you step back and think about it. It just always reminded me how much I love him, plus, as a woman, I didn’t really think about it from a “man’s” point of view.

Background – I consciously chose to have a loving term for him because I grew up in a family where my parents did not ever use such terms with each other (that I can remember). There was quite a bit of plain old nuts-and-bolts daily stuff mixed with arguing, fighting, and drunkenness. It was a super-duper warm and fuzzy home, but not entirely hell either. As I grew older and thought about all this, I decided I would much prefer creating and maintaining a loving environment and one simple way to do that seemed to call the people I love by loving names. Makes sense. It reminds me, and them, all the time that I love them and they are most definitely special to me.

But I must confess that there seems to be a bit of a gap between the desire to do so and the current options for expressing that. Many of them, I guess like “Sweetie Pie” might seem a bit dated or not “manly” enough for all men to feel comfortable with them. Thankful for his honest sharing, I am now in quest of the new perfect love name. It can also be challenging on the opposite end of the time spectrum for people of our generation as some of the pet names I read on another post (check it out here) come from the teenagers and don’t seem quite “right” either. These include names such as “Bae” (apparently an updated form of baby and an acronym for “before anyone else”) and “Boo” which actually was on some of the older lists too (but I really don’t think Musepa will go for that…).

In my continuing search, I came across an article on the Huffington Post (check it out here), that listed 13 names that they think need to be retired immediately. Examples of those being “Sweet Cheeks”, “Snuggle Muffin”, “Porkchop”, “Poopsie”, “Bubbles”, “Sugar Booger”, and “Pudgy Pops”. I can totally understand on many of these, a couple don’t seem too bad…  To me at least, but the quest continues.

Moving along, I hit a potential jackpot when I found the post “400+ Cute Nicknames For Your Loved Ones” (check it out here). The sample list for females to refer to males included some already known ones like “Sweetie” (you know we love that one here at Mr. Sweetie.. : ) and “Dear”, but goes on to provide links for 400 for boyfriends and 400 for girlfriends, as well as some suggestions of names for pets!

This article is really beneficial and gives me quite a bit of hope for something really great for the next phase of our love and relationship because it starts by making suggestions about how to create your own name for your significant other or special someone by thinking of things like variations on their own name, their physical or personality traits and characteristics, their hobbies and interests, etc. It then goes on to list 400 suggestions, including some taken from other languages and I actually see at least a couple that I like – now I just have to bounce them off Musepa and see if they feel good to him, after all if they don’t feel like love to him, then they aren’t the word for us. Plus, we always have fun doing things and playing with and finding new pet names for each other is just one more fun way to grow your love.

I will keep you posted on what we come up with, in the meantime feel free to share your suggestions.

P.S.  This applies to nicknames of love for your kids as well!

Also, feel free to share this post and information with anyone you know who you feel would benefit from it.

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do; it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )

What pet names do you or have you had in loving relationships that you really like?  What pet name do you like your significant other to call you?

We’d love to hear from you!  Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section so we can help each other; remember, we are all in this together!


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