Help!! My Boat Is Sinking!! – Staying Inspired During Challenging Times


I have been getting a lot of opportunity for doing self-coaching this past five days. And will probably get many more between now and a week from today.

I am out of state, visiting my mom, whose health is declining, with the sole intention and purpose of helping her clean her house while spending some time with her.

Confession – my mom is a pack rat.

She went through the Great Depression (when food and items were very scarce and times were very difficult). I have heard many times before that people who lived through that experience often have issues with accumulating and holding on to excessive amounts of items.

Unfortunately, this creates huge problems with being able to clean the place, or even get around as the house starts to fill up with “stuff.” This creates potential health hazards such as food stored going out of date and the cans eroding and oozing out onto the cabinet or floor. As well as allowing many, many nooks, crannies and surfaces that are completely unreachable for cleaning but do allow dust, allergens, chemicals and toxins to accumulate, hide and multiply over time.

My mom has not used her kitchen table in years. When someone comes to visit they hardly have a place to sit and her second bedroom is completely closed off as the items stored inside are flowing out into the hallway.

She also has a very difficult time letting go of or getting rid of stuff, which makes trying to clean her place up a bit challenging… Several other friends and family members have attempted helping her, but simply cannot work with her, due to her unwillingness to let them get rid of things. Hence the need for self coaching on my part.

Here are some of the things I remind myself of or do to lift my spirits, build my energy or be able to keep on track with my mission. Perhaps if you are encountering a difficult moment, day or event, some of these pointers will come to your aid:

1- Remember the goal and optimal outcome and how great that will feel for everyone involved, as well as how beneficial it will be for her health (just adjust the details to your particular challenge and goal);

2- Take a break, do a little stretching, deep breathing, movement or general shaking and loosening of the body (dancing or singing is also very good);

3- Commit to meditating at least every morning and evening for 15 minutes or so. Add in a few more times a day, even if it is just for a minute or two if you need a little “lift”;

4- Consume quality food and drink and keep things that give you an energy crash (like sugar) to a minimum;

5- Listen to inspirational books or energizing music on your ipod;

6- Get a good amount of rest so you are prepared for the day and job at hand;

7- Breathe deep, often. Think about exhaling any tension and distress each time you breathe out;

8- Laugh and joke as much as possible! (Even if it is in your own mind  : )

Hope this is a reminder about some simple tools to use when the baby is crying, multiple challenges are coming at you or you have a big project like the one I have at hand.

I will keep you posted about the outcome of my current adventure, but would love to hear what tools you have used during your own challenges and what types of challenges you have used them for.

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do; it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )


What types of challenges have you faced and what tools have you used to help you get through them?  Did you find them effective or would you have some recommendations for modifying them?

We’d love to hear from you, so please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section so we can help each other; remember, we are all in this together!



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  1. October 19, 2015

    […] light of my recent trip to assist my mother in cleaning up her house (see my posts here and here) due to keeping so many things (pretty much for the past 20-60-years), many of them brand […]

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