Emergency!! I Need A Road Map PLEASE!!


During the many cycles of life and motherhood, there will be times when life is very, VERY busy, perhaps even insanely so. I usually find this occurring when you have multiple “projects” or commitments going on and deadlines are approaching. It is at these times that life on the inside (in our own mind) can get very stressed or overwhelmed.

I am writing about this because I am sitting right smack dab in the middle of one of those times right now.

We have two separate remodeling projects going on, or about to start in the next few days (electrical updates and some interior changes), and we are having a wedding ceremony and celebration (mine!!) in TWO cities occurring back to back on consecutive days. After that, we are flying to a small mountain city hot springs spa to stay for about 9 days (which will be very enjoyed by that time). We are also at the end of a couple courses in songwriting and music production and doing research about starting a natural foods manufacturing company!!!

Needless to say there are alot of details, preparations, prioritizing and things to do.

There have been several times where I have really needed to be able to make some decision and be creative where I have been a little too overwhelmed and busy in the mind to be able to do so until I step back, take a nice deep breath, remind myself that it is all going to work out, and remember to utilize the internet and tap into what systems and methods have others have used in similar situations to determine things. In this case, locating ideas for writing your own vows, ideas for creating a memorable experience, options for the unfolding of a ceremony, inspiring poems or music to share during the ceremony, as well as looking online at examples of tile, lighting fixtures, faucets, food manufacturing how-to sites, etc.

For some reason, once I get at least some direction and ideas or inspiration from others, I am once again able to move forward with the project at hand. It reminds me of when I was faced with making decisions about natural childbirth, breastfeeding, cloth diapering, vegetarian diets, homeschooling, television for kids, toy weapons, best discipline for children’s learning, effective communication, relationship challenges, etc.

As long as I was able to locate at least one other resource that resonated with my values and priorities, it was like getting a road map when you are lost somewhere or a life jacket while floating in the ocean. Life seemed less overwhelming and more do-able, I got a very solid burst of new energy and insight as well as direction about what I felt was best for me and my family.

I also learned new habits about organization and how to do things in a way that reduced the occurrence of “secondary jobs”. Examples of secondary jobs being having to clean up the toys later if we don’t just incorporate it into the end of playtime so it is already done, or having ironing or large amounts of ironing to do because the clothes that were washed & dried were left in the dryer for a long time and now were very wrinkled, etc.

In short, developing a “mommy brain” (creating and incorporating systems and ways of doing things that make my life easier and less stressful) still serves me to this day. I might even go so far as to say that being a mother provides the opportunity for an alternate college degree (home-schooled in this case : ). One that will serve you very well in the role of being a mami, as well as translating over to other areas of your life like business and career or health and wellness, or… you name it!!

Some interesting and beneficial resources on this matter are The Clutter Diet for reducing clutter and organizing your home for more enjoyment and less stress as well as A Mother’s Rule of Life: How To Bring Order To Your Home And Peace To Your Soul. A Mother’s Rule Of Life has a Christian foundation which may appeal to some people more, but has beneficial insights and information for anyone.

I also recommend thinking of those things that are stressful or overwhelming and, after stepping back from them and taking at least a few deep breaths, if not a couple hours away from them, reflect on how they could be done differently to be easier for you. Also, check on the internet for what you can learn from the experience of others to learn new ways of accomplishing things that might work better for you.

What is at least one thing that is really challenging you right now that you can take steps this week to learn how to do it easier?  How often can you comfortably commit to checking in with yourself about the next area you want or need to do differently to reduce stress or free up time for you or your family?

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do, it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )



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