Driving In The Center of The Lane – Navigating Life’s Bumps and Hurdles


Over the years I have developed a preference for using stories and analogies to convey things I have learned. I even use them on myself. They can be a quick reminder to another, or yourself, to shift you attitude to a more positive one, get back on track for creating the life you prefer, make the choices about what to eat or do in your spare time, or guide how you will interact with others, and therefore help create the outcome or type of relationship and life you dream of.

I think they were born from being a bit on the sensitive side, and seeing myself go from times when I was “on track” with living life the way that kept me happier and more excited about what each day held for me to dropping down into an icky funk, sometimes for awhile, and wondering just what the hell happened.

I finally learned by trial and error that I was going to have to be the one to pick my own self up, and glue the pieces back together to start again. I started looking for tools to aid me in that process and the stories and analogies techniques was adopted.

One of my favorites is the analogy of driving safely and happily in the middle lane on the road or highway. As long as you do this, you can get where you want, at whatever speed you choose (forget about what other drivers are doing for this purpose – they are out of your control, but can be driven around as needed). The bumps or lines become your helpers – they guide you to stay safely in your lane all the way to your destination and let you know when you are leaving that path.

The same is true of our emotions and how happy and fulfilled we are feeling about life. We start integrating in things we want to do or things that feed our minds, hearts and souls, and life starts feeling pretty sweet. Some we say “we are in the flow”. Perhaps we are exercising, meditating, doing yoga, spending time with friends we enjoy who encourage and support us, we integrate activities we love and enjoy into our life on some kind of a regular basis (like painting, drawing, writing poetry, creating music or playing an instrument, hiking, spending time in nature, dancing, reading inspiring or interesting things, learning new things, etc.), things that excite and enliven us!

Then something comes along….. LIFE!!!  You decide to move, take a trip, change jobs, do some remodeling, you get sick, your kid(s) get sick, you have company from out of town, you get married, you get divorced, you have another baby (hopefully not in that order : ), etc.  Somehow you got out of the habit of doing those things on a regular enough basis to support and maintain your optimal happiness, health and functioning. Perhaps you really didn’t pay attention to the little lines or bumps and are way over in the next lane or completely off the road!!   : (

First off, remember this is just one more life experience. Tune in & see how you feel – physically, mentally, emotionally take inventory. Do some deep breathing to regain some peace and distance from whatever distress you may be feeling and when you are ready… Tune in to your heart, ask yourself what sounds good right now? What do you need?

Another way to do this is how Steve Jobs did it, “I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” (You can view a video of Steve Jobs’ speech with this in here.)

Start integrating back in more & more of these things, as you are able, and begin to not only get your life back into the lane you want to be in, but drive in the center of the lane!  (Your happy place!!!)

You can even choose to start viewing the times spent out of the center of the lane as “learning experiences” or things that provide a reminder about how truly sweet life is in the center of the lane, and therefore helping you enjoy it even more than you used to!!

Perhaps you will even find yourself, as I have, noticing that the down or difficult times are no where near as tough as they used to be. You have become more aware of not only the cycles of life, but also the power you have about guiding where it all goes….

Wishing you much happiness, health, joy and success, no matter what lane you are driving in…  : )

Do you know what activities and/or hobbies feed and nurture your soul?  What things make you the happiest?  What activities make you feel the best about yourself?

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do, it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )

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