Creating Memories For You And Your Sweetie

One of my favorite things about being an adult, is discovering photos, artwork, and journals, from when I was younger, especially from childhood. There are just so many things going on at every stage in life, that many things we swear at the time we will never forget, are relegated to those dark and cobwebby corners of the mind, tucked away, waiting for rediscovery like pieces of glass washing up out of the sea.

The traditions we treasure as mamis will only be carried through to our sweeties as we allow them to be. It is just another of the numerous opportunities we have to create what our sweeties think of as comfort, and home. In pondering this, with the many hours of waiting for my very own Mr. Sweetie to arrive at my whirring mind’s disposal, I mentally checked all of those traditions passed to me by my own parents, Koolma and Grandpa, and added a few of my own. Here is the list I came up with:

  1. Holidays – My husband, Cisco, is Catholic, and I am Agnostic. That doesn’t mean that Mr. Sweetie is going to have to choose, though! Some of the best occurrences in life come from a fusion of completely different things (like Mr. Sweetie himself!), so I want it to be important to him to have a Christmas, an Easter egg hunt, Fourth of July, Halloween, birthday party, New Year’s celebration, and the like. I want him to understand why people celebrate these things, and also that he can decide for himself what he wants to continue to celebrate when he gets older.
  2. Taking photos – Instead of giving him an iDevice or phone at a young age, I am going to teach him to use a camera, and to take good photos. I have made it a point, until that day comes (not that it’s hard, at all, because he’s so cute, and there are many interesting and pretty things to snap shots of!), to basically take photos every day. This includes using my phone’s camera, and also buying disposable cameras. I am a little old-school when it comes to photos, and, though I know that digital photos can be printed to mimic those created on film, they aren’t the same to me, and I want Mr. Sweetie to have both to look at and enjoy when he gets older.
  3. Starting a journal – When I was pregnant, I decided to start a journal for Mr. Sweetie. I wrote about what was going on that day, how I was feeling, what I was thinking about, and so on. Now that he is a little over four months old, I continue to write to him, and will do so until he is old enough to start his own journals. I think it is very important to have the ability to vent your feelings, thoughts, and actions, positive or negative, onto paper, and this is something that I want us to share together. Plus, I think it is a great way for him to learn to write, and will encourage his creativity!
  4. Starting a mixed media sketchbook – A few days ago, I got into one of my art totes and pulled out a little Mixed Media paper sketchbook, and Mr. Sweetie and I created his first watercolor painting! (See Koolma’s most recent entry) I want him to have some creative outlets, and, as I also love to do art, this is another thing we can share together. It is also an indoor or outdoor activity he can do instead of sit in front of a TV or computer as he grows, and another thing that he will enjoy looking back at as an adult.
  5. Spending time outside – Every day, whether it be walking, sitting on the back porch together, playing with the animals, or going to the park, we make it a point to get outdoors! As a child, I spent most of my time either reading, building mini civilizations out of wooden blocks and Littlest Pet Shop, or running around barefoot outside, and creating games to play. Cisco also spent a lot of time outside as a child, growing up in a small village in Guatemala, so the outdoors are near and dear to the both of us, and just the sort of thing that kids love! It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to entertain a child, and some of the best toys, games, and imaginations, develop from simple sticks of wood or funny-shaped rocks. It is also an easy way to find learning opportunities that will enrich your little sweetie’s life.
  6. Reading books – This is another area in which I am a bit old-school. Yes, I know there are all kinds of apps that allow you to read from the comfort of your computer, phone, or tablet. But, to me, as a child who spent long hours reading, there will never be a replacement for the level of involvement in reading that is the feeling of the pages under your fingers, carrying it with you under your arm, the anticipation of opening a new book’s cover, or the satisfaction in being able to close the book as you finish it. This is another thing I want to share with him, another thing that creates bonding time, and a way to provide a mentally-stimulating alternative to TV, computers, and video games.
  7. Dancing – This is one of my favorite things, and doesn’t need much explanation! Kids love to dance, it’s an easy way to get some great exercise, and some good laughs! You can be as silly or as serious as you and your little sweetie like. I will never be too old to dance!
  8. Learn a hobby together – I have wanted to get back to my guitar, keyboard, and violin, for a while now, and, with everything else going on, I haven’t made it around to it. I have decided, if I am not able to find the time to do so while Mr. Sweetie is still small, those are things that we are going to learn (or re-learn, in my case) together. Music is a wonderful addition to any life, big or small, teaches hand-eye coordination, confidence, and harbors creativity. Win-win-win-win!

I am sure I will add more things to this list as time goes on, but these are the dear traditions I have come up with to nurture Mr. Sweetie’s sense of home and family. If you haven’t thought of it already, I encourage you mamis out there to think about the things you want to pass on to your own sweeties. Feel free to use anything on this list as inspiration! I wish you many happy years of creating the kind of family you want!

 

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Mami

Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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