Baby Love – What Do Cute, Sexy, Sweet and Funny Have In Common?

Cute and Sweet!

Cute and Sweet!

I occasionally go shopping or run errands with Mami and Mr. Sweetie, and they were kind enough to take me to the store yesterday to get a few grocery items. The store is only located about a half a mile or so from our house, but during the drive I kept turning to the back seat and checking on Mr. Sweetie. Sometimes because he was making noises of joy, playfulness or occasionally, discontent, but sometimes just because I find myself “magnetically attracted” to him.

I cannot totally explain it, but it feels like a kind of “love-dipped fascination.” Nearly every time I look at him, I am thinking about how cute and adorable he is. His expressions are fascinating and delightful, at bare minimum entertaining. All his little movements and habits affect me the same way. He is working on rolling over and sitting up as well as arm control, etc., and his continual learning and practicing is just plain old “fun” to witness.

I am at once experiencing these feelings and observing them, with curiosity. I thought my children were very cute and adorable too, but it doesn’t seem like it was as continuous. I think because I also was so overwhelmed with concern about “how I was doing at parenting” and what “was best for the baby”, while also attempting to do my best to take care of myself, the house, be a good wife, make all our food from scratch, be the family doctor, etc.

YES!! It is a really big job!!!  (Plus I didn’t even list ALL the details – mamis you know what I am talking about here… : ) )

Flashback cuteness!

Flashback cuteness!

But back to the story of yesterday, I was so taken with how cute he was on the drive to the store that some little part of me completely expected that when we went shopping, we would be inundated with people “noticing” just how cute and precious he is!

Guess what? I only remember the girl bagging our groceries being mesmerized by him!

It really got me wondering about just what is going on inside us, as mamis and grandmothers, is there some chemical reaction taking place or what?     I know it is not just me and Mami, as she is this way with Mr. Sweetie too, but I see it in my relatives who are grandparents and my friends as well.

So I looked a little on line and found a Ted Talk by philosopher Dan Dennet (check it out here), where he goes a little more into detail about how and why we have the the experiences of “cute, sweet, sexy and funny”. He indicates that research shows that humans and other species that need to provide a fair amount of parental care to their young before they can become self-sufficient tend to have “baby faces”. This in turn, brings on feelings of nurturing and cuddling in the adults. The apparent benefit here is that parenting can be such a big and challenging job, babies might be in big survival trouble if their caretakers were not as delighted and attached to them.

He also goes on to point out that it is a mistake to think these things (cuteness, sexiness, sweetness, funniness) existed first. It is actually that they came into existence as an effect of our preference for them!!! This is a bit backwards from how we might think it all evolved. He says this also applies to our experience of sweetness, sexiness and funniness!

Blessings to you and thank you for all the loving parenting you do; it makes a better world, one Sweetie at a time.

Hug attached,

Koolma  : )

Do you have the same or a similar experience with your sweetie, whether you are a mami or a grandmother?  What kinds of things do you do to cherish your sweetie (like take lots and lots of pics in all kinds of interesting places, share stories or pics with others often, etc)? 

We’d love to hear from you – please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section – remember, we are all in this together.



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