Hello, dearest readers and mamis!

This past week, my thoughts have been on many things, but a major one has been trying to teach Mr. Sweetie that he doesn’t need to be held all the time. Now that he is a week away from twenty months, he has gotten pretty heavy, not to mention that it makes doing damn near anything almost impossible with just one arm (I still do some truly unbelievable things this way, but it is certainly not preferable).

Sometimes, I can get him interested in a snack, or a beverage. Having music on generally helps, and sometimes, he will surprise me and start his own organization project. But there are times, every day, when he howls like a banshee to be picked up, despite my best redirection tactics.

Mainly, I am torn between two valid concerns: 1) does he really need me to comfort him? 2) should I let him be upset to help teach him that he can’t always have what he wants when he wants it? Especially since he is a spirited and sensitive little guy, it can be hard to just let him wail, but I have started deciding at certain times to let him wait.

Of course, I explain to him why I am not available at that moment, and I tell him I will be when a certain task is complete, or in a certain amount of time. At first, I was met with much resistance, but he seems to slowly be adjusting to this new facet of our relationship. I am hoping that I am doing the right thing by encouraging and supporting his independence and my own needs, and our joint communication.

I think that’s probably the hardest part of being a mami or parent: not knowing if what you are doing is helping or hindering. But adjustment and change are both big parts of life, so I think I am giving him some useful tools and learning myself in the process.

Have you had any experience with this sort of behavior? What did you do? Please leave a comment in the space below; we would love to hear what you have to say!


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Mami is an artist, aspiring entrepreneur, and first-time, full-time mother. She enjoys long walks with Mr. Sweetie, good food and cooking, her family and dear friends, writing, arting and crafting. She doesn't know everything, but wants to learn, and loves to do research and share what she finds. She thinks life is like a box of puzzle pieces: you keep trying until it fits, because every piece has its place. She owns and operates whatever she sets her mind to, and knows that the sky is only the limit if you haven't left the ground yet.

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